Your Views on Co-Sleeping is it Like Marmite??

Co-Sleeping with Emilyn 
So this is my Issue Hugo has been poorly for about 2 weeks he's refusing to nap in his cot, he's refusing to sleep in his cot. I really DO NOT enjoy co-sleeping with him;
Yes shoot me now, I'm a terrible terrible Mother. He wears boots an a metal bar to bed every night he has Bilateral Talipes, as a baby he didn't need me as a comfort to go to sleep, I'm totally not used to it.
Yes in a IDEAL PERFECT WORLD i would be a co-sleeping, baby wearing, organic eating, breastfeeding Mother. But hey i'm not. I am not Hating any of the above... It's just not me. I like to think i'm a good mother the best i can be at the moment, Hell yes i struggle but don't we all?
I am a little fed up of hearing how Terrible Mothers are for not co-sleeping though. yes good one. the best i have seen was....


It's funny because i Breastfed both my babies till at least 6-9 months I have co-slept & i have carried them in my Baby Bjorn. Still this made me feel like shit!... Yes i have given my babies Bottles Hugo is weaned off them now (He was is 13 months old) Emilyn was Weaned off at 12 months old. Yes my Babies Mostly sleep in their own bed & most of the time they are VERY Happy to go to sleep in their own bed without sitting there crying & asking for Mum Mum Mum... & YES I put my babies in a buggy. My back is bad enough let alone to put a 2 stone baby in my Bjorn still. MY BABIES ARE VERY HAPPY & SO AM I.
Its like the whole Breast V Bottle Debate. YAWN. why do some mothers like to make other mothers feel like they are doing a bad job. we are all in the same boat.


Hugo in his Bjorn 10 months old & big enough.


Sorry i went off on a Rant didn't I? OK so here i am stuck in a rut. Hugo will not sleep in his cot. so this morning i thought i would ask the Twitter world of Mummies about their Co-Sleeping Views.

I tweeted - "This reminds me what's your personal thoughts about Co-Sleeping? Need to blog ASAP I have mixed views....mainly as H wears BnB "

I was amazed at the response & the difference in Views.


" we did it & had no problems. L is 2&a half and decided time for his own bed & room. Got bed, he got in & that's it. It worked for us"

I think its fabulous if it has worked for you- i especially think its great that she has had no problems getting L into his own bed this was my main concern & why i didn't Co-Sleep for longer with Emilyn.


" Not a good idea why not theyr own bed?"


" it saved my sanity when E would feed 2-3hrs in the night. I get more sleep than if I didn't."


This was my own view of Co-Sleeping with Emilyn, we got into a routine of she just fed when she wanted & i stayed asleep. it honestly was great i was getting the sleep i needed.


" i really enjoy it. Anything that gets you extra sleep is good in my book as long as you do it safely."

This is also true. I heard a lot of people saying how 'unsafe' they think it is. i always made sure Emilyn was my side of the bed so Husband couldn't roll on her. it is SO easily done.

Becca ward @Becca_Ward90
" I tried so hard not to do it, J was such a good sleeper as a newborn so had no need to try it, H on the other hand, I quite often end up with her in my bed as she has colic and it seems to comfort her abit xx"

I totally understand if it eases baby & baby seems happier this is what i done with Emilyn.


Jem ‏@jemjabella
" normal, natural, convenient. Don't think there's much else to it. :)"

"Khloeee
  agree. But think I will always feel more relaxed & comfortable when not co-sleeping. Would like best of both worlds"

I feel SO torn & maybe a little bit guilty I quite enjoyed Co-Sleeping with Emilyn I felt more relaxed knowing she was so close to me, she was happier being in my bed but I got talked out of co-sleeping telling me 'i was making a rod for my own back'... the irony... *eye rolls* I worked myself up at trying to get a good routine & have Emilyn sleep in her own bed done the whole bloody Controlled Crying & spent the whole time crying myself.
I know have a whole new look on life. I want Happy Babies & i can't stand hearing them cry. BUT i do need my own space. I struggle to sleep whilst having a baby head but me... kick me with a metal bar or snore mouth open on my cheek.
I will eventually wean Hugo back into his own bed...
I personally enjoy my bed to be shared just Husband & me.
We are all individual mummies & daddies with our own views. what suits me may not suit you. all of our children are completely different.
The views i have read today have been great i thoroughly enjoy reading through your own experiences & i was in amazement at a few Mothers saying they have NEVER Co-Slept. I wanted to know their secret to it.

Co-Sleeping for me is definitely nothing like Marmite I neither Love or Hate it, It suits my life some nights but not so much other nights. If my babies are poorly i welcome them into my bed.

9 comments:

  1. Natural did it right up till j was a year then on and off when he got scared as he got older.

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    1. sounds very similar to me with Emilyn, she still gets in our bed now & again although she's happy enough camping out on the floor next to me too :) x

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  2. Midge would co sleep with me now if I let her and she's 5! We had naps together as she was growing up bit she dropped them quite early. She was an awful sleeper until she got her own bed now I rarely have trouble.
    I ADORE co sleeping with my kids when they're young but I kick my husband out when one if then comes in (this is when they're scared or poorly otherwise I will do all I can to keep them in their beds) my Husbanf is built like a rugby player so you can get my unease lol
    It is a pain though as they end up moving in all sorts of positions and I'm always making sure a heads not under a pillow they're not too hot etc so co sleeping had the added problem of always being hyper aware I you're not over tired x

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    1. Where does your husband sleep when your little one gets in your bed?
      see i think it would be a whole different ball game if i was a single mother - i would have both babies in with me ;)
      yes this is it. i don't allow myself to get in to a deep sleep when little ones are in my bed i am so worried they will get too hot. or squashed under pillow ect ext. thank you for sharing your views :) x

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    2. *Funny i was replying whilst putting both my babies to bed in their own room ... :)

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  3. Apologies if you get two comments from me, although I think it ate my first one.

    It was @khloeee who said she felt more relaxed/comfortable when not co-sleeping (it's not clear in the entry); I certainly feel more relaxed when I AM. My daughter is 3yrs 3mo and I still miss having her in my bed (she moved to a bed of her own at 2, of her own choice). I still wake every time she stirs. My son is 8.5 months and I don't see him stopping sharing any time soon.

    I don't think that image was designed to make you, or any mum, feel bad. It's just designed to make those of who us who regularly feel like outcasts feel more normal!

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    1. Thank you Jem. - Yes i had a typo error there I have now fixed it. thank you for pointing it out. :)

      interesting view on the picture. i dont think a mother who choses to Bf for a long time. or co-sleeps or baby wears full time is un normal, its such a shame motherhood is so judged upon. x

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  4. I find this whole debate really interesting. We have never co-slept with our daughter who is nearly two. I'm not sure why, it just didn't happen. Now we have the problem that she won't come into our bed at all (she gets upset and wants to be in her own room) and if she is ill then one of us has to sleep in her bedroom floor (which isn't ideal).

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    1. Thank you for your comment. thats really interesting i'm really enjoying hearing how different we all are.
      that must get hard work. i think i must take for granted getting the little ones into my bed when poorly. although we are on day 11 of Hugo co-sleeping which isn't ideal poor Husband had Hugo's boots & bar crash into head uhoh... xx

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